Dampatya

Bibah shabder akkhorik ortho, 'bishesh rup e bohon kora'. Soja banglay bolte gele sangsar er bojha ghaRhe chapano. Bojha ghaRhe oThar por take 'bishesh rup e bohon' na korte parlei muskil, bahon ebong bahok er modhye monomalinyer sambhabana. Bibaher opor naam Panigrahan maane haat deyoa-neyoa. Je haat dichchhe, tar mone 'Sholay' chhayachhobi te Sanjiv Kumar er moto bhoy er udrek hotei pare. Tahole dekha jachchhe haat prodankarini, ebong bojha bahankari ubhay er mon E bibaher sambhabamanay asshankapurna thake. Setai swabhabik. Kintu proti bochhor som theke robibar, boishakh ba agrahayan, aparanha ba godhuli te ei samajik anusthan chole aaschhe ebong bhobishyot eo aasbe.

Bibaha poroborti jeebon ke bhalo banglai bola hoy dampatya. Shobdoti esechhe Dampati theke, jetir sandhi bichchhed korle hoy Jaaya o Poti. Ekhon jaaya o poti mile Jompoti holei bodh hoy sohoj hoto. Jomjomat hoto o bola chole. Kintu sandhir porei 'Jom' er naam aanle bichchhed er probol sambhabana dekha dite pare tai bodh hoy panditera otike ektu palte diyechen. Etir onyo byakhya o oboshyo sambhab. Parashurm jemon dekhiye gyachen stree biyog er por goirik dharon kore 'Swami' haoa duruha noy, temni Poti hote gele o purush er bibaher proyojon hoy na. Erokom onek udaharan er modhye kichhu holo, Narapati, Kulapati, Nripati ba Rashtrapati. Ei somosto poti ra bishesh kore Nripati ra oboshyo udar mone ekadhik dargrahan karten. Kintu ei bhdrolok er moto chirakumar poti o itihas e biral noy. Enar chirakoumarjyo niye oboshyo onyo onek kanadhusho shona jay, kintu se sob kotha thak. Asol kotha holo onyanyo jekono poti haoa jotoy shakta hok na keno, Dampati haoa E sob cheye koshtokor. Ei prakar er 'Poti' hobar porei purush er 'dom' bondho hobar upakram hoy.

Dom bandho hobei na ba keno? Jaaya'r opor naam holo stree, soja banglai jetake amra boli istiree. Istiree'r motoy Streer kaaj holo chaap diye banka jinis ke soja kora. Tobe istiree gorom korte jemon koylar unan ba baidyutin sanjog laage, streeder belai temon noy. Onader matha emnitei gorom hoye thake. Oboshyo dampatyer prothomm porbo poti ba potni ubhay er pokkhey besh anonder. Kintu joto din jaaye totoi bojha baaRhte thake sei songe taptata o.

Premika'r mukhe nijer naam shunte kaar na bhalo laage? Tokhon taar sob kothai premik er kachhe 'kuhu-rob' bole mone hoy. Kintu premika jokhon bodhu hon, tokhon 'premi' kata giye shudhu poRhey thake 'ka'. Diney ratey Ka-ka rob shunte tokhon kaan jhalafala. Dampatyer boyos baRhar sathey sathey purush er shraban shakti komte thake ebong nari'r kanThaswar totodhik baaRhte thake. Er karon hoy to uporkto bakya ti te paoa jaabey.

Dampatyer boyos ebong prem er baRha koma niye onek rokom gobeshona kora hoyechhe. Beshir bhag khetrei dekha gechhe bibaha poroborti ek batsarkaal ateeba anander. Taar por anada aaste aaste kome jaye, abar kichhudin por baRhe, othoba aaro kome. Onek tarka bitarker por dampatya jibon ke mulata: chaar ti bibhag e bibhokto kora hoyechhe: swabhbik, du:khadayak, pahaRhi ebong bichchhedkarak.




Swabhabik dampatye ananda kromosho komte komte pray du:kher porjaye chole jay, tarpor abar baRhar por ek i rokom thake. Beshir bhag chha-posha lokjon ra ei parjaybhukto. Du:khadayak dampatye anondo kromosho komte komte talani te ese theke. Ei somosto dampati ra bujhtei paren na tNara satyi i anonde acchhen kina. Bahu batsar por ekjon er mrityu ghotle tobei bojha jay dampatya koto sukher chhilo. Tritio prakar dampatya holo 'paharhi'. Enader sukh-du:kho ghorHir 'pendulam' er motoi edik theke odike jay. Eisob dampatider swabhab onekta shib thakur er moto, alpetei tushto, abar tuchchha karonei agnisharma. Ei somosto khetre Patni'r pitraloy o shashuraloy kachhakacchhi haoa E banchhoniyo. Chaturtha ebong shesh prakar dampatya holo sab cheye khanasthayee ba 'bichchhedkarak' dampatya. Engriji te ei dharoner dampatya ke 'celebrity marriage' akhya deyoa hoy. Kintu Upor er chhok e se khetre shudhu bochhor er jaygaye 'maas' bosiye nite hobe. Uporokto 'chhok' ti amar seemito gNyan er porichayok. Sangsar samudrer teer e ami ekhono nuRhi kurHochchhi. Tai bhhul haoa E swabhabik. Khanasthaiyo anondo jemon hothat 'gohona laabh' ba 'Biriyani khaoa' ebong khanasthayee du:kho jemon barambar bola sattwe o 'janjal na fela' ullikhito chhok ti te byabohar korar sujog ghote ni.

Swabhabik dampotyo ebong paharHi dampotyo niye duti lekha samprati antarjaal lipi te prakishito hoyechhe. Pathak pathika der onurodh korbo seguli parjalochona korte.

Moter upar dampatyer boyos baaRhle prem kome asai swabhabik. Sob somoy mone rakha darkar 'love' beshi hole loksaan o beshi. Shudhu bhalobaslei to hoy na, tar songe bhalo 'basa' o chai, basar por ei gaRhi, tarpor saari ityadi ityadi. Tai jesob dampati ekhono pNaach bochhor katiye othen ni, ba jesob hobu poti ba patni ekhono mukto haoay dom nichchhen tNara bhoy paben na. Dampatya, jampatyer moto jomjomat na shonaleo, nitantoi kharap noy. Er joto boyos baRhey totoi sthayee hoy. Ek kothay dampatya ke 'chirasthayee bondobosto' o bola chole.